Just say “no”!
Sometimes it's scary to say "no," Photo by Domenico Photography
If my 28 years on this earth has taught me anything at all, it is to learn how to say: “stop,” “enough,” it’s finished” …in other words “no.”
Why is this such a difficult task? And why can some of us confidently and directly say “absolutely not” while others beat around the bush ad nauseam?
I’ll tell you why:
Simply, we are afraid.
As circus professionals the word “no” is our most valuable asset!
When your life is on the line, or when you’ve over-trained, or when you are uncomfortable with with a maneuver, or when you are unwell, it is your right…no, your RESPONSIBILITY to say no.
Even though it is tough to spit out – it’s better to just say it, rather than avoid it, and feel the effects later on.
This to me is a much better case scenario than being extremely upset/uncomfortable/disabled by my “yes.”
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Hmm.. Just can’t help it, and felt I should leave a comment for this one too.
I definitely agree that some of us lack the courage to say no. In my experience, the way we say no is also important:
When we say no (when it is justified to do so), we should do it assertively. To show that we are assertive, the best is not to show too much emotion (or still better not at all) while saying no. This is because, at times, when we say no emotionally the emotions can be used against us. However, when we say no calmly and assertively, we are showing how determined we are in what follows.
This takes practice for some of us.
Cheers!
You raise a valid point Shary, thank you for your input
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